In fact I did not know that love had a language or that love spoke
till I heard of this theory by Dr. Gary Chapman which is outlined in his book “The
5 love languages”. It was such an illuminating
theory I thought I should share it on here. The 5 love languages are:
1 1. Quality Time
2 2. Words of affirmation
3 3.Acts of service
4 4 Gifts
5 5. Physical Touch
Now the biggest obstacle to healthy relationships is when two
people speak different love languages. To someone spending time with the
significant other could be considered as love but sadly if to the partner love
means acts of service then it is a recipe for disaster. And one could visualize
a scene where he says “but how can you say I don’t care for you when I spent all day with you?” and she says “yes but you
sat there and did nothing”. Don’t you think it would be a wise thing to look at
what love language our loved ones understand most. I sure am going to do so. I just wish I had heard of this many years ago things would have definitely been a helluva lot better than they are now.
6 comments:
so true :) C and I have different lingos and I only figured it out properly after getting married. When ur dating things sort of go unnoticed coz ur not with each other ALL THE TIME. Very different when ur married. Luckily we've identified, accepted it and moved on. Its like ur own little secret, only the two of u know the signals :)
Dr maya cocker am talks on this at her parenting classes
Cockeram.
This is such an eye opener. I know that Baba and I have different lingos but I thought that was just because! Thank you CJ! :)
I totally agree, and have only recently realised that this does not mean he doesn't love me, he just expresses it differently.
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