When you go to pick your pre teenage daughter from a party and you are walking her to the vehicle and one of your friends call you and say in his most lascivious voice “hey buddy does your wife know that you are out with another woman?”
This is exactly what happened to me a couple of weeks ago as I was walking down the corridor of SSC with my eldest. It made me realize that one phase of her life was over and another was just beginning. But this one was far more dangerous because even though she still was a little girl in her heart she did not look like one to the outside world. And very soon I will not be dropping her and picking her up from parties because she would want to go with her friends. And very soon there will be boys at these parties. Boys who were just like me when I was that age and had only one thing on their mind.
I am an open minded easy going person but I must confess I have wondered how I will handle it when she starts getting interested in boys. They say that a majority of females end up being attracted to males who are quite similar to their dads because that is the only male role model they have. To be very honest I don’t find this very encouraging in fact I am downright disturbed because I was an absolute scamp when I was young. And when I look back I am not proud of the things I have done.
I guess what Tom Clancey said about God giving you daughters to punish you for the sins of your youth is absolutely true.
I just hope and pray that I can give her the right guidance and hold her hand steadily as I support her through this phase of her life’s journey.
God help me.